Relationship of Self-Compassion and Divorce Readiness in Women Submitting Divorce Lawsuit in Surabaya Religious Courts

Adianti Handajani, I Gusti Ngurah Gunadi

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Background. The higher increase in divorce each year are often triggered by prolonged marital conflict without a complete settlement, of which 70% occurred due to divorce by wives with primary reason is disharmony. The divorce decision often made without proper preparation, lead to a bad impact on later life. Self-compassion involved in producing a firmness choices supported by self-confidence and lack of ambivalence in the decision to divorce.

Objective. To analyze the relationship between self-compassion with the female complainant divorced readiness in the Religious Court Surabaya.

Methods. The study analytic correlation with cross sectional design using systematic random sampling and research instruments using the Self-Compassion Scale (SCS) to assess self-kindness, self-judgment, common humanity, isolation, mindfulness, over-identification, as well as Divorce Readiness Questionnaire (Gregg) and a culture questionnaire to assess the readiness of divorce.

Results. There were 46 study subjects met the inclusion criteria. Pearson Correlation Test declare that self-compassion had no correlation with the readiness of divorce (p = 0.083, Gregg, and p = 0.259, culture).

Conclusion. There is no relationship between self-compassion with a divorced readiness. Timing of research (timing) and external factors (Javanese culture) more strongly affect the subject of research for the time being, thus making the correlation was not significant.


Self-compassion, divorce readiness, self-compassion domain

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